DisclaimerEverything in this site is a personal philosophy and should not be regarded in any way as professional or therapeutic advice. It's simply a site with a few ideas.
About Mark Avery
To improve his public speaking skills, Mark became a soapbox speaker in Sydney's Domain park. (He calls himself 'Mr Bashful' and his listeners, 'grasshoppers'.)
He still speaks there because the feedback he receives is invaluable, and the meetings are fun.
Try his other book: 'The Umpteen Keys to Resilience.
Part 1. The Deep Need to Belong.
Part 2. The need to feel valued.
Part 3. Can we value ourselves?
Part 4. Status.
Part 5. The need to contribute.
Part 6. Be assertive.
- Be assertive. (Or don’t live in Wimp City)
- Key #5. State what needs to happen from now on.
- Key #6. You are not obliged to give a reason.
- Key #7. Show the person you understand their point of view.
- Key #8. Don’t run away.
- Key #9. You don’t need to solve the other person’s problem.
- Key #10. You are not obliged to answer all questions.
- Key #11. Ensure your question is answered.
- Key #12. Don’t be a citizen of Wimp City.
- Key #13. Don’t be an ‘Are you sure?’
- Key #14. Don’t be a ‘Maybe’.
- Key #15. Get rid of the ums & ers.
- Key #16. Ask why.
- Key #17. Ask for help.
- Key #18. Learn to say ‘No’.
- Key #19. Ask for something in return.
- Key #20. Accept compliments.
Part 7. Being assertive in particular situations.
- Being assertive in particular situations.
- Remain unattached to the outcome.
- Kids: avoid feeling ‘nagged’ by a parent.
- Stick up for yourself
- Dealing with a nasty person.
- Dealing with an angry person.
- Dealing with hostile emails.
- Steps to take if you need to confront someone.
- Getting away from talkers.
- Opportunities to practise being assertive.
Part 8. We don’t need close relationships to be happy.
Part 9. Connecting to the people we are close to.
Part 10. Feed your soul.
In conclusion . . .
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The entire book is below. The chapter headings are to the side.
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