It took me years to figure out what makes a person happy and write it all down. Then I thought I’d better provide examples. After all, it’s no use explaining the nature of happiness and leaving it at that. That would be like listing the ingredients of a pavlova and not bothering to explain how to cook the thing. So, I had to:
(i) Explain where happiness comes from. (It comes from satisfying ongoing innate needs.)
(ii) I then had to explain what the hell that means.
(iii) It then made sense to explain how we can satisfy those needs. How to cook the pavlova, so to speak.
Fortunately, I ignored every possible study that could prove my case. That kept me honest.
The end result was a tome so big I split it into three:
The Umpteen Keys to Resilience
The Umpteen Ways to Satisfy our Deep Need to Belong
The Umpteen Happiness Myths
(Do you notice a pattern?)
Is this book with the interminable title for you?
It is, if you are:
– interested in a fresh approach to the big question, What makes a person happy?
– a parent or guardian aiming to give a child guidance.
– someone who wants to feel that they matter.
But if you want to be told what thoughts to think and what emotions to feel, forget it. There are plenty of authors out there willing to tell you what to think and feel. You don’t need me.
And, if you want to be told to love yourself then leave this site now. You won’t find banalities like that here.
This book is about changing our awareness and our behaviours, because that’s all we really can change. And that’s what gets results.
If this book appeals, join me. You and I. All of us. We are all in this together.
‘We are all in the same boat, in a stormy sea, and we owe each other a terrible loyalty.’
G. K. Chesterton.