We have seen that being connected is not about pleasing people to ‘fit in’, or about having lots of friends. Nor is it about having close, loving relationships.
It’s about feeling valued for what we do, as well as feeling valued for who we are.
It’s about feeling worthy, for no reason at all.
It’s about contributing to the tribe, while being the person we were meant to be.
It’s about realising that we create our own world, and we are the boss of it.
It’s about welcoming into our world the people who want us to thrive.
It’s about allowing everyone else into our world, on our terms.
It’s about being with loved ones, (if we have them), the right way.
It’s about feeding our souls the good stuff.
When we do those things we gain a self-assuredness that allows us to feel ‘good enough’, and that in turn allows us to discard our anxiety. So, instead of making judgments of other people, and fearing their judgments, we begin to feel for them.
It’s at that point we feel connected with them. And at last we know, to our very core: we belong.
And then we know it’s true. That all of us really are in that little boat, in that stormy sea, and we really do owe each other that terrible loyalty.